Hi !
By now you are probably becoming aware of your typical knee jerk reactions. Those automatic, habitual ways you have of reacting to certain situations. For example, someone hurts you and you clam up and withdraw from them or your friend is late to meet you and you send her waves of seething resentment when she arrives or your mate fails to do what he said he would do so you pepper him with accusatory questions.
What is your predominant knee jerk reaction? What type of situation sets it off? Can you feel it coming? Can you catch yourself before you react? No matter how long you have had the pattern of reacting the way you do, know that it is a habit and habits can be broken.
As we have said repeatedly, awareness is the first step. Choice is the second step. Once you are aware of what you do, choose to do something different.
Let's take the above examples and choose a different response.
1. Someone says something that hurts you, but instead of clamming up and withdrawing, you let them know you are bothered by what they said. Take responsibility for your reaction and don't blame them. Instead of "You made me feel bad", choose "I felt bad when you said I look like a stork when I dance."
2. Your friend is late for your meeting, but instead of sending eye daggers, you tell her that being on time is a high value to you and ask that if she is going to be late to please call you OR if you know your friend is consistently late, be late too!
3. Your mate fails to stop for groceries on the way home, but instead of questioning his memory and his commitment to you, ask if there is a reason why he was unable to keep his promise. Ask if he is still willing to go get the groceries. React with a smile instead of an accusation and have fun watching his reaction!
In other words, be unpredictable! Be lighter and more playful. Choose a different response. Just make sure the other person is sitting down when you do!
Today will bring you a new awareness, a lesson or a manifestation that you are making progress - IF YOU LOOK FOR IT! No matter how large or small, please record it in your Evidence Journal. It will only take a few moments and will AUTOMATICALLY put you in the Flow.
Truly Caring for Your Success!
Dr. Robert Anthony
P.S. Some of our most defeating knee jerk reactions result in over eating, not exercising and pretending we don't care how we look and feel...the result? Feeling even worse about yourself and going even further into the same negative cycle until it feels too hard to change...
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